Community—especially in the wearying, isolating years of young motherhood—is a gift from God for our mutual strengthening and encouragement.

In our creativity and our motherhood, community is God’s gracious gift to us—to support and strengthen us along the way.

When we feel the loneliness and uncertainty of being a newcomer, the gospel reminds us that friendship is a good gift—created, redeemed, and restored by our God.

As we enter into other moms’ lives with words of hope and support, we can point them to the better encouragement of Christ Jesus.

As we connect with others in gospel friendship, we reflect the love of the triune God who made us for relationship.

One of the greatest comforts we can offer a suffering friend is coming alongside her to lament and point her heart to Christ.

When we’re willing to make the first move in friendship, we can reflect the love and pursuit of our ultimate friend, Jesus.

Here are three of the most effective expressions of care that you can offer a friend in the wake of pregnancy loss.

Though our days may already be filled with serving our own families, when a friend is in crisis, we have a beautiful opportunity to serve her and help her experience the love of Christ.

The little years might not seem like the season for mentoring. But we don’t have to have it all together to have something to offer—the beauty of mentoring is growing together.

Caring for our children often leaves us with little time to care for our friends. But with a little creativity, we can be a friend at all times, even when we don’t have time.

Infertility is painful for countless reasons, but one reason is women can feel isolated from or misunderstood by their loved ones.

I know this struggle all too well.

Now that I’m in my early 30’s, I’m the only woman in my circle of friends who does not have children. I respect and admire their commitment to their families, for that is a good, godly calling! However, the natural result tends to leave me, a childless woman, feeling removed or not properly cared for.

How, then, should you love your friend suffering through infertility?

There isn’t one ideal approach, and every woman is different but here’s what I’ve learned. By leaning into Christ, you can love and serve her well through these three Gospel-centered ways:

(1) Mourn with her.

(2) Remind of her of her identity in Christ.

(3) Speak truth, not fluff.

There is unending grace for you and your friend as you navigate this trial together. Be committed, be bound, be unshakable.